Love month, here we go.
As we enter February 2020 and finally bid January goodbye – what seemed to be the longest month ever – I’d like to speak to all the ladies out there who like me, are still single and savoring this period before we (hopefully) enter the last romantic relationship of our lives. The one that would change our status from single to married, to mother, and mentors to younger women.
It’s a Sunday morning and instead of leaving the house to attend a service, I tried to have my own in the comfort of my room. For praise and worship, I played One Desire by Hillsong, then Good, Good, Father by Chris Tomlin. These are the lines that struck me:
“How could I fail to see
You are the love that rescued me”
“And you tell me that You’re pleased
And that I’m never alone”
“But I know we’re all searching
For answers only You provide
‘Cause You know just what we need
Before we say a word”
I had to share it with my closest friends online… while crying. I cried at the thought of God’s perfect love for me. For us. Think of the love a father has for his child. For a daughter, in particular.
No mistake can make a father love her little girl less. She will always be precious to him. He will always try his best to make her happy and give her what she wants as long as he knows it’s good for her. That is unconditional love a girl would never have to negotiate for.
It’s sweet, secure, and transformative. That’s exactly how God loves us.
So ladies, I don’t know about you, but unless a man (not a boy) can make me feel he can give me at least half (okay, fine) of that love, I’m not settling. I’d be more than willing to spend every Valentine’s day by myself knowing I’m not wasting my time.
If you know what you bring to the table, you won’t be afraid to eat alone.
At 28, I’ve dated three guys I actually liked (others not counted hahaha) and although it didn’t work and stung my heart a little, they understood I have values, standards, and I value my time without me even having to tell them upfront.
Love < Respect
As they say, if you ever have to choose between being loved and being respected, choose the latter. Not all men can do both, so if you meet someone who can, he’s a catch.
And if he loves, respects, and strives to give the sweet, secure, and transformative love like Christ’s… maybe you can marry him! 😂
That’s all I have to say for now. A fun love month to us all!
Let us be the love this world needs lol