An attempt to cheer you up (and myself also).
I’m a 29-year-old strong, independent woman with a good sense of humor. I have more than enough friends who care for me sincerely, and a family that’s imperfect, yet I’m happy to have. I’d say I’m smart, and at this age, I have acquired a good skill set that make me look forward to a bright future. I’ve always been a positive person able to recover from setbacks quickly.
Until 2021 started and it feels like it wouldn’t let us recover from 2020. Not yet.
News are bad, the new normal is still unacceptable, and the only thing we know for certain is COVID-19 is far from over. And of course, the situation is much worse in a Third World country.
I figured you feel the same, so, here’s a list of what you and I can do to feel a little better:
Change what you dislike
2020 was depressing because we all lost our sense of control. We still can’t regain it, but if you’ll list down the things you dislike, you’ll see you can resolve most of it. Don’t like your job? Send out applications in better companies. With someone not good for your mental health? Leave. Being proactive will help you get through feeling powerless.
Take it slow, take a break
I watch Grey’s Anatomy and in one episode, a doctor told a patient who’s about to lose her fingers (and with a sister who keeps reminding her to stay positive, at least she’s alive after the accident), “It’s okay to cry today. You can be positive tomorrow.” It’s understandable to still have random breakdowns this year, so don’t feel guilty if you’re a bit slow at work. Take as much breaks as you need as long as you stay reliable to deliver on time.
Go to the beach when you can
Like most people, I love the beach. There I can stop functioning and just be cute in my bikini. People in the beach are all so chill, friendly, and sunshiny. Food is good too. It’s also safer in the beach than here in the city because travelers get tested before flying. So go, all the hassle for that pricey RT-PCR test is worth it.
Be serious about practicing self-care if you still don’t. You do this to look and feel good, and more importantly, to strengthen your mind and body– basically, how you’ll survive this difficult time. Eat healthy, exercise even if you feel lazy, strive to have enough sleep, talk to your loved ones regularly, pray and keep the faith.
Realize it’s just January
This is also hard for me, but realistically speaking, it’s just the first month of the year and we’re mostly probably just experiencing holiday blues. Be open to that idea even if the news make it hard for you to hope for the best. When they say nothing lasts forever, they were also talking about the bad days. Keep on putting one foot in front of the other.
Try to encourage others
Like what I’m doing now. You reap what you sow, right? Yeah, it’s extra difficult to be nice to people when you feel depressed and anxious, let alone spread positivity, but you can do it. Tell others what you want to hear. Be there for friends and family when you can.
We’re all just doing our best to move forward even if it feels like we’re not going anywhere. I’m not used to feeling sad, and lately, I feel more stupid than smart. It’s Sunday and instead of celebrating the weekend, I’m in my room honoring my hopelessness. But, it’s okay… I can be hopeful tomorrow. You too.